AM I a prude or is my boyfriend rude?
So my boyfriend, Griffo, is going to a grand final party this weekend which I’m not invited to.
This doesn’t bother me so much as I’m an NRL girl, so I’d be bored out of my brain anyway.
He told me about it last week and said no women were allowed.
I didn’t really think much of it at the time — but yesterday we got talking about the party when he slyly dropped into the conversation that topless female waitresses would be there.
My initial reaction was ewwwww — and then I asked why? After all it’s a footy party, not a buck’s party.
He tried to explain to me that this was the norm and that it was no biggie, they’d just be there to serve beers with their boobs out.
I got the concept but I didn’t understand why this was happening when it was just a footy party.
One part of me wants to be the cool girlfriend and not judge my boyfriend — the other part of me is dying inside.
Is my gentleman of a guy that I love to bits just like the rest of them? Somehow his clean-cut image to me has been tarnished.
I understand that guys sit around with topless waitresses at Bucks parties, that’s just standard. But on a Saturday afternoon watching the footy — is it really necessary?
I guess what I can’t get my head around is that he wants to sit there and stare at someone else’s breasts.
Just saying it aloud, I’m hearing my mother come through and I think I have turned a little prudish.
Are other women with me?
You see, I’ve heard of blokes that are like this and I’ve seen men sitting around with the boys watching women flaunt their assets and I judge them.
I’ve kind of always thought men that behave this way are a bit sleazy — even if my brother and Dad fit in this category.
I’m not one to shy away from sexual discussion, nor am I a prude when it comes to bedroom fun.
So why am I judging these lads including my boyfriend? As I’m writing this, I’m working out that I’m probably a walking contradiction.
Do all men behave this way? Should I just suck it up?
Help, ladies. Am I alone? Has my boyfriend’s gentleman persona now been tarnished?